Therapy & Coaching services
Maybe you’ve tried therapy before, or maybe it’s your first time. Either way, you want a different approach and you want lasting change. You want to gain clarity, feel confidence over your emotional life, and have better relationships. And you want guidance from someone who understands your South Asian background.
I hear you, I can help.
1:1 therapy/coaching
You want to overcome the obstacles holding you back from being the best version of yourself: the best partner, friend, parent, and family member. You are highly motivated and ready to work on yourself. You want all parts of your life (family, work, and love) to work together.
I get it. You want change. And you don’t want to spend another 2 years in therapy to make it happen. Let’s collaborate to help you figure out your patterns, find your strengths, and make a plan so that you can move towards a healthy, fulfilling and authentic life.
You are ready to dive into this opportunity for change.
I will make space for you, in an empathic, non-judgmental way. But, I will also challenge you to see your patterns and help you find your own way.
Some of the things that my clients work on together:
setting personal boundaries
gaining confidence and self esteem
understanding family dynamics
working to overcome shame
moving on from insecure attachment
creating new interpersonal skills
finding personal joy
In our sessions, we will dive into family and relationship history, discover unhelpful patterns, and find ways to replace these with healthy skills. I’ll help you find and work with the parts of yourself that are stuck, as well as the parts of yourself that are ready to move forward, and use your innate strengths like hope, creativity and resilience to build trust with yourself - now and in the future. We’ll use tools such as relationship science, polyvagal theory, meditation, and other creative and science-based ways to develop deep self confidence and self-trust
“Strong back, soft front.” Brené Brown.
relationship coaching
I only take on a few couples in my practice so that I can give you my attention and challenge you to make shifts. I’m constantly engaged with psychotherapy colleagues and with furthering my knowledge to bring you what I consider to be the most useful, research-backed relationship education. I take an integrated approach to relationship coaching - influenced by interpersonal neurobiology and attachment patterns. I often see couples who have already been to a few couples counselors, so I get how eager you are to see change. I will challenge you and offer you homework to deepen (and speed up) our work together.
I’m also deeply impacted by cultural and religious issues specific to South Asians. We will work together to talk about attachment, family dynamics, self-esteem, and boundaries in the context of your background. Most couples want to break old family patterns, learn how to self-regulate and pass on a healthy and secure legacy to the next generation.
In addition to doing deep work with each partner, uncovering their history and attachment patterns, we may cover the following:
Deepening listening and connection
Stopping cycles of criticism and defense
Healing unhelpful patterns
Dealing with in-laws
Setting healthy boundaries
Finding more joy, creativity, and freedom.
Moving towards secure attachment and confidence
Parenting young kids without criticism
Accountability for your own needs and desires
How to learn from and process the end of a partnership
If this sounds like the kind of life improvement you want, get in touch!
Intensive sessions (2-3 hr sessions for 10 sessions)
For couples or individuals who want to gain insights quickly, I offer intensive sessions. Here is my process:
01 — Setting Goals
Tell me about your goals, your challenges, and draw a picture of your life, your career, your relationship, etc. and where you’d like to go.
02 — Getting to Know You
Let’s set or re-set goals so that we are starting out on the right foot. I have you complete journaling prompts to get to know you more deeply, faster. We’ll use these stories to find your patterns and what may be getting in your way. We’ll make a plan to replace these patterns in both top-down and bottom-up ways (incorporating both mind and body).
03 — Doing the Work
I’m a hands-on, directive therapist. I listen, but I also challenge you. We will supplement our work with resources or homework so that you get the most out of our collaboration.
Re-setting the goal. I like to revisit goals because sometimes they change or become more focused. This gives us a chance to course-correct quickly and learn from the process.
04 — Getting the Guidance
This means homework. I will provide you with resources - emails, book recommendations, exercises, etc. if it can help you meet your goals, help you maintain the shifts you experience or round out our work together.
05 — Moving On
If the work feels done after 10 sessions, we can check in once in awhile on an as-needed basis.