Helping you cultivate the most important relationships of your life.

SANAA HYDER
 

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What Does “Work on it” Really Mean?

I often tell my clients that a relationship takes a lot of work. More work than they probably anticipated. It's a myth that the right person just "clicks" with you because we are often attracted to people who push our buttons. So, we must put in some work. But what kind of work?

Podcast Episode 4: Kindness, Part 1: Being Your Best Self

In this episode we explore the role kindness and integrity plays in your relationship. In the early days of dating, we all work hard to be kind, to put our best selves forward. What happens after that? What happens in 6 months, a year, 5 years, 10 years? What’s the point of working on yourself and what is the impetus for being kind to a partner who is supposed to "get you" no matter what?  For additional reading, check out my article on kindness that appeared on The Gottman Blog.

Podcast Episode 3: Taking Couple’s Therapy Home

You make an investment when you go for therapy - both in the therapist and in your relationship. So how do you get the most of it? In couples therapy, we offer a safe environment for couples - a place with rules, and a coach. But a therapist’s goal is to teach you how to develop these skills so that you can communicate in a healthy way. If you're in therapy with your partner, how do you use the skills you've learned and apply them when you get home? Tune in!

Podcast Episode 2: Arguing

Arguing... Is there a right way to do it? Arguably, yes. What impact does arguing have on your relationship? How do you modify your reactions and respond to your partner? How do you have effective communication where your partner is primed to hear you without shutting down? Tune in to this episode and learn about how to handle an argument. As Fritz says, "Create a reality that's inclusive of both people's well-being and happiness." I'll show you how. Tune in.

Podcast Episode 1: Why I Talk About Relationships

Welcome to my podcast on relationships, where I talk about the most pressing issues that come up in couples's therapy, and offer insights from therapists. Tune in!

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Ringing in the New Year with Relationship Resolutions

Include your relationship is your list of new year's resolutions. Here's a guideline for how to get the conversations started.

Overcoming Gridlock This Holiday Season

How do you navigate issues that seem unsolvable? Here are some tips on how to move forward, lovingly, with your partner.

How to Be Kind When You’re Upset With Your Partner

Cultivating kindness is important to your relationship, not only in good times, but also during the heat of an argument.

The Culture of Relationships

Our society, culture, families, and friends preach a certain narrative about how to love. Who do we listen to? And why does it matter?