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An Abundance of Understanding 

Another article about kindness. And this time I break it down further and answer some of your real questions about HOW to bring kindness into a hard discussion and WHY it's ok to be the one to go first.

“I don’t know how to talk about my feelings”

Most of us were not taught how to share our feelings or even how to identify them. But once we learn how to name and share our feelings, we can deepen our bond and have a safer and more fulfilling relationship. So how do we do it? Read on.

Self Care for the Winter

If you spend time on your health, your mind, your spirituality, your appearance, does that make you self-centered? Or is it vital to take time to make your self more centered during these long winter months?

A Peek Into One Couple’s Therapy

A rare and insightful look into a real couple's therapy with me.

I Don’t Know How To Be Vulnerable!

Being vulnerable is hard. But the benefits are huge. Here are some ideas for how you could practice vulnerability in your life.

Podcast Episode 5: Kindness, Part 2: Being Your Best Self

Join me in this episode as we continue with an important topic: kindness. Learn how you can cultivate it throughout your relationship to manage your and your partners hurts, and move forward without causing further arguments. Listen in to hear an amazingly helpful analogy that might change how you perceive the importance of kindness!

What Does “Work on it” Really Mean?

I often tell my clients that a relationship takes a lot of work. More work than they probably anticipated. It's a myth that the right person just "clicks" with you because we are often attracted to people who push our buttons. So, we must put in some work. But what kind of work?

Podcast Episode 4: Kindness, Part 1: Being Your Best Self

In this episode we explore the role kindness and integrity plays in your relationship. In the early days of dating, we all work hard to be kind, to put our best selves forward. What happens after that? What happens in 6 months, a year, 5 years, 10 years? What’s the point of working on yourself and what is the impetus for being kind to a partner who is supposed to "get you" no matter what?  For additional reading, check out my article on kindness that appeared on The Gottman Blog.

Podcast Episode 3: Taking Couple’s Therapy Home

You make an investment when you go for therapy - both in the therapist and in your relationship. So how do you get the most of it? In couples therapy, we offer a safe environment for couples - a place with rules, and a coach. But a therapist’s goal is to teach you how to develop these skills so that you can communicate in a healthy way. If you're in therapy with your partner, how do you use the skills you've learned and apply them when you get home? Tune in!

Podcast Episode 2: Arguing

Arguing... Is there a right way to do it? Arguably, yes. What impact does arguing have on your relationship? How do you modify your reactions and respond to your partner? How do you have effective communication where your partner is primed to hear you without shutting down? Tune in to this episode and learn about how to handle an argument. As Fritz says, "Create a reality that's inclusive of both people's well-being and happiness." I'll show you how. Tune in.